My mom is one of my best friends. In fact, both of my parents are. We are more like siblings, hang out, have lots in common and I have quality time with both of them. My dad and I have traveled together, go out for sushi, etc. My mom and I share our love of altered art, shopping, and ghostly encounters. I am very close to my parents, very close to them both. I never thought I would be one of those people who lived in the same town as my parents as an adult, but I wouldn't have it any other way. They are amazing grandparents as well and my daughters adore them.
My mom, who is 70, had a biopsy on Monday. I was really bummed, because I didn't get to talk to her before they (my mom and dad) left for the doctor. I called, but they were already on their way. I tried to just not even think about it. What good would that do? She has had lumps before, cyst that have been easily taken care of. This mass was different.
Today, my mom went back to the doctors for the results. I knew her appointment was at 9:00 and I called their home and cell phone every 30 minutes or so. When my mom finally answered, around 11:30 she just acted "normal". I finally said, "Well, how is everything?" She replied...
"Oh, it's malignant."
I am not doing well right now with being strong about this and my dad is a lost puppy dog without her. He is a worrier and is constantly analyzing things as it is. Especially over the last few years since his retirement.
We are all aware of cancer, of checking our breast and the benefits of early detection. My mom has mammograms yearly, and we are lucky because we have caught it as early as we have. Why do I say "we"? Funny that I just thought of that. It isn't my breast that has to be operated on. But the fact is, we all "know" cancer. We all know someone with it, or has had it, or has been effected by it.
I don't know what this new road has in store for me or my mom, or dad, or my daughter's or sister or grandfather or friends or my husband that my mother adores. I pray that it is a very short road with a successful crossing.
I am devastated right now! Please, please, please, keep my mother in your prayers. She will get an MRI next week and meet with the surgeon.
My mom IS amazing and one of my best friends. Prayer is the key to life!
Enjoy this beautiful day, that is still a blessing in so many ways, and remember to not worry about all of the little petty crap that comes with it. As my mom loves to say, and even said today, "This too shall pass". She has such a positive attitude. I will too, once I am past the shock of it all. I am on my way to her house now with my girls to play in the sprinkler.